Dribbling in ma beer. (plonk)

[Cliff Rogers]

Don't read this if you don't want to hear about death by cancer.

















A good friend who has lived around the corner about 2 blocks away, (staggereing distance) for the last 7 years is on his last.... can't even say legs 'cos he can't stand up any longer.
He has Cancer of the Liver.
That bit is secondary & there are at least 7 tumours.
When they found it, the biggest was 16cms. :eek:
It took them a couple of weeks to find the primary cancer & they needed to find that before they could do anything about the secondary one.
They didn't really 'find' it... it announced it's self when he turned yellow & his poop tuned white.
No bile!!!
The primary is in his bile ducts.
They have done a couple of proceedures to put stints in his bile ducts but the proceedure comes with a possible complication of infection.
He got the infection & the treatment for the infection comes with a complication.... so on it goes.

He looks like something out of a horror movie.

He was one of 'the' best excuses to 'go to the fridge' when he was around to visit 'cos the second thing he ever said when he arrived was "It's a bit of a dry argument, don't you reckon."
He says he's disappointed that it's not sorosis 'cos he's tried hard enough.

The only plus is that he has gone home from hospital & has a special bed set up & when his friends turn up to say farewell, even though he looks like he's dead already, he's not & he can hear them & even still manage to acknowledge them. ( insert sad, teary, big lump in the throat emoticon here.)

[Gumby]

I know how you feel. When I first got the invite to Borer's recent BBQ which you came to, I said I had a friend who was very ill with the same thing and we were planning a lunch that day, to say goodbye so to speak. Well he wasn't well enough for that lunch so I was able to get to Rob's BBQ.

Unfortunately he passed away last week and we never got to have that last lunch. He went form reasonably fit last summer, to getting the news in january, being diagnosed as beyond help shortly after and went progessively downhill form that point. He looked awful the last time we did see him.

It shakes you up a bit. I don't know whether it would be better to go out knowing and be able to make arrangements or just go out suddenly with a massive heart attack. I think knowing is better, to be able to say your farewells, especially to the kids. The trouble is, it's painful and my friend was just so full of morphine in the end, he didn't really know much at all.

Very, very sad, but that's life and there but for the grace....etc.

Best wishes to you Cliff. I know what it's like.

[echnidna]

Cliff & Gumby
Sorry to hear about both your news.

[Auld Bassoon]

Cliff & Gumby,

I echo Bob, bad news for you both - and even more for the respective families. If you weren't blokes, I'd send you hugs...

Take care!

Steve

[craigb]

My BIL (wifes brother, not the bloke with the cigars) died of melanoma in April.

He was 46 years old.

RIP Brad.

It's a bugger of an illness.

Give me an infarction anyday.

[Cliff Rogers]

Thanks guys.


This is the second close person that I have watched take this road out & yes, it good to get to say goodbye but I wish they could then just walk onto the boat/plane/bus/charriot & go if they have to.

Two of my Granparents went to cancer but I was too young to understand the yucky details.

Now I do.

[Gumby]

Makes you think we should be able to choose ourselves. Have something ready to take and go without the pain whenever we like, when we are ready. I'm sure that will come one day.

[Cliff Rogers]

Yeap well, that's one of the positives about being able to be at home... when he starts to frown, they move the dial up a notch.... he may be out of it half the time but... so what, he's gonna die one day.

....Give me an infarction anyday.

I just looked that up....:confused:
I think I'd rather go by an intercourse with a cherry on top.... Yikes.. :eek: Did I say that? :confused: I meant what's her name... [smack] Ooww I didn't mean you[smack] Ooww? I did mean that it was you that I wasn't meaning... I think... [smack] Ooww I didn't mean I was thinking of you [smack] Ooww I did mean I was thinking of you [smack] Ooww I give up.... I hope?

[Cliff Rogers]

The wait is over.

[bitingmidge]

sorry.

P

The wait is the worst bit though.

[MeTaBo MaN]

Gezz sorry to hear that Cliff!

[Rocker]

Cliff,

Sorry to hear that you have lost a friend. I won't say any more, because whatever I say will sound trite.

Rocker

[silentC]

Yes, likewise mate. Sorry to hear it.

[Gumby]

Me too Cliff. At least the pain has stopped.

[Daddles]

It's a hard one - sad to lose your mate, happy he's no longer suffering. Just roll with it mate. I'll have a drink to honour your loss tonight.

Richard