The hardest thing I've ever had to do

[Grumpy John]

I just received a phone call from the aged care facility where my mum is that she has stopped eating and it looks as though she's "given up on life" so I'm off to say my last goodbye's. I'm a real coward at this sort of thing and am finding it hard to get up the nerve to go and see my mum dying. I always swore that after missing out on saying goodbye to my dad that things would be different with my mum, but jeez this is hard.

[The Bleeder]

John,

Just go, be with your mum and at this point in time don't judge just be there with her.

[Grumpy John]

I've just come back from a visit with mum and had a very one sided conversation, and I feel much better for it. Luckily the home she's in is just a 5 minute drive for me so I'll go and see her again later tonight.

[Greg Ward]

Mate,
She'll be with you forever. You'll be having conversations with her at odd times in the future.
There comes a time for all when we get tired and perhaps your mum has reached that period in her life.
She will appreciate your presence, just hold her hand.
And be glad you have the opportunity to spend some time with her.

Greg

[Sturdee]

Just go there as often as you can, sit beside her and just hold her hand. She'll know that you are there and that you care, at this stage words are not necessary. That's what I did when I was in that situation.

I'm thinking of you.


Peter.

[Woodwould]

Tough times John, but they're golden too. Swallow hard and just be there for both your sakes.

[tea lady]

Geez Grumpy! That is hard! My thoughts are with you! I have no experience woth this sort of thing at all, but I'd imagine just being there is all you can do! One of those times when you can't really DO anything! All the best!

[artme]

Tough indeed Mate! But presence is the best thing for both of you.

When my first wife died from abrain tumor I was exhausted, and though I knew the end was near, I went home to sleep! She died while I was away, something I've always regreted.

My mother is currently in a nursing home in Ballina and it gets harder and harder to visit this wonderful old lady, but I do so as often as I can.

John - be there for, and with, your mum.

[jimbur]

It's hard but what else can you do.
The final appalling times will eventually fade a bit and the person you really knew will take over in your thoughts again.
Even though it's one-sided, tell her about the good times you remember.
Jim

[fenderbelly]

My father was in a car accident and in hospital, my brother was visiting him late and got back to my place about midnight and said he wasn't looking good.

I got a taxi there and he died while i was visiting, at least he didn't go on his own.

You be there mate, i know it's hard but you wont regret it.

[wolften]

...just being there with your Mum will say it all mate.
Words will be hard but carry on as normal.
Our thoughts are with you.

[Christopha]

I understand and appreciate your situation. Hang in and give your Mum the support and care only you can give. Best of thoughts to you.

[Kev Y.]

As others have said, hang in there, my thoughts are with you...

[dj_pnevans]

John I started writting some things about my mum and dad who have passed but it still hurts. All I can say is do what is right for you.
David

[munruben]

I feel for you mate and have been through it twice myself with both my parents. It's a sad time for you but I am sure you will have some lovely memories to look back on with your mum. My thoughts and prayers are with you.