Domestic Violence

[SPIRIT]

look there is ads on TV all the time on this subject so realy there you cant say l didn't know where to go .You must use the system (LAWS)or the system will not work ,crime must be reported so they can try and fix this mess that we live in
seek help from the many help line that are set up ,and go from there the first is the hardest but it must be taken somebody need help here before it goes to far and there is no turning back

[SPIRIT]

that poll is hard one l did teach my son how to defend himself against a woman sorry not even girls get a free shot !manly blocking but sometime you will have to grab them until you can retreat never hit or push or hurt with your hold .

[dazzler]

Here is a little perspective from my exp.

Back in the late eighties I went to lots of the stereotypical drunk husband comes home and hits the wife. By about the late nineties this seemed to have changed somewhat to that of husband and wife continually arguing until it escalates to pushing from both sides and in many cases the wife slapping the male and the male slapping/hitting back.

The old image of meek insecure females being beaten seems to have changed somewhat and both parties seem to be at fault to a large degree.

So IMO the ads are focused a bit on the past and need to better reflect the fact that a lot of domestic violence is down to two parties unable to control themselves.

This is just my experience of attending about 5 of these a week over a decade or more but could be region specific.

Just on a personal note. When I split up from my 1st wife we had an arguement and she was so angry she started hitting me so i grabbed her hands which resulted in her latching onto my nipple . May have been okay if I was in a gimp suit but instead it just damned hurt

[dazzler]

Daz,

Its the same here in SA we have zero tolerance any evidence and we lock them up and put them before the courts even if the other party is not willing to take action or provide a statement. We do it off our evidence .

There is no reason to hit a women. I grew up with my father beating up my mother and no family should have to go through it.

Regards
Allan.

Its a great law. As a supervisor its fun to walk in and ask

"why is that person still here (assailant) , take them away thankyou"

[Wood Borer]

It is good that the laws have changed to remove those people who use violence against others.

I was recently in White Cliffs and went on a tour of the area (highly recommended ask for Patch).

Patch the tour guide told us the sad story of a woman with 9 kids (she was 24 at the time!) who was constantly beaten up by her drunken husband back in the early days. Australia did not have any laws at the time against wife bashing.

The drunken wife basher ran off to New Zealand and married over there. He continued his wife bashing habit over there but in New Zealand they had a law at the time that you could not bash your wife during daylight hours. That was this clown's downfall and he was sent to gaol in NZ for wife bashing.

He returned to Australia after doing time. His wife ended up marrying the Police Chief of South Australia and lived into her nineties. His body was found in their hut nine months after he had died because nobody visited him or cared about him.

It was a touching story with a good ending told at the preserved cottage where they lived and she was bashed. Patch has restored the hut and it is still much as it was during those dark and cruel times.

It seems to be a rare example of where the law is ahead of society, however unfortunately wife bashing sadly continues.

[Gingermick]

.You must use the system (LAWS)

SWMBO is in making a statement at present. I finally convinced her to go after I was informed the big welts on her arm are from where the mongrel dog grabbed her.

[Clinton1]

Gingermick, you are a calmer man than I.

Hope you can manage to stuff up his life for him for a long time to come... however you choose to go about it.

[SPIRIT]

SWMBO is in making a statement at present. I finally convinced her to go after I was informed the big welts on her arm are from where the mongrel dog grabbed her.

just keep your head and look like the calm one in the mix and you will do more good than bad
that goes with dealing with your wife as well good luck

[Gingermick]

Gingermick, you are a calmer man than I.

Its causing my much grief and anxiety to be so.

[Christopha]

Gingermick, Did I not read your post correctly? Was it not your SWMBO who physically attacked the next door ???? first, in his own home after he asked/told her to leave? Does this not make HER the aggressor in the first instance?

[Lignum]

I know this goes againsed the spirit of the thread, but i dont understand why gingermick didnt go straight over and belt the bloke for physicly having a go at his swmbo

[HappyHammer]

I know this goes againsed the spirit of the thread, but i dont understand why gingermick didnt go straight over and belt the bloke for physicly having a go at his swmbo

Must admit I thought that too especially being a redhead. But is it worth GM getting a crim record for assault? Often on reflection after having retaliated it's not, although the calmness within which you reach this conclusion is partly generated by the satisfaction of having retaliated.

It's a difficult one but GM has done well to control himself

HH.

[ozwinner]

I agree that 'women' should be changed to 'person' in the poll.

Done.

Al

[Daddles]

I know this goes againsed the spirit of the thread, but i dont understand why gingermick didnt go straight over and belt the bloke for physicly having a go at his swmbo

Since when did violence ever solve anything, particularly other violence

Richard

[Lignum]

Since when did violence ever solve anything, particularly other violence

Richard

So someone belts your wife, mum, sister or girlfriend and you sit back and do nothing. Fair enough if thats what you would do. Not me.