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27th July 2008, 10:57 AM #1
I am confused and need some advice from the woodworking women
Presently my wife is in a pain rehabilitation clinic noticing that she looked as if she was feeling left out about what was happening in my life I decided to leave a letter with her clean laundry. In this letter I fill her in about what is happening at home and also I include some other touchy feely stuff that men don't usually talk about.
This seemed to cheer her up no end and I think has and will help with her rehabilitation. The strange thing is that when I walk into the hospital now I notice the nurses looking at me, smiling and generally giggling and pointing and talking about me behind my back, I am wondering if they have seen these letters (my wife calls them love letters) or if it was the kilo of Belgium chocolates that I left at the nurses station with my business card to thank them for looking after my wife.
Have I broken the men's code by writing these letters and leaving the chocolates for the nurses, what am I to do? I am so confused. Maybe the Wood Whispering Women on the forum can help?
BTW if you google 'causealga' and 'pain sensitisation' it will explain my wife's condition.
Regards
PhilTwo things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I´m not so sure about the universe.
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27th July 2008, 12:07 PM #2
Hi Phil
I really have no idea why they might be doing this, other than that they have noticed your acts of kindness and find it so rare they need to talk about it amongst themselves.
Anyway, don't be put off. If it helps your wife, keep it up, even if it makes you feel awkward. Mention it to your wife, maybe. As she's closer to the action she might understand it better.
(Just a thought - this might be similar to how I feel when I walk into a male dominated timber yard and start asking odd questions. I get more than a few strange looks and feel very out of place sometimes.)
Hope your wife's pain gets better and she can get home quickly."... it is better to succeed in originality than to fail in imitation" (Herman Melville's letters)
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27th July 2008, 12:32 PM #3
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27th July 2008, 01:30 PM #4
Thanks for the kind thoughts Jaspr, we are into a four week stint have one under our belts and three to go, I was that lonely the other night I put her PJ's around a pillow in bed (now I am getting all touchy and feely and breaking the Men's code). needles to say the woodwork has been put on the back burner prioritise I suppose. What my wife is suffering from is a life long condition and there will be flare-ups. After 35 years together we thought that life was just starting to get good, have to change our definition of good.
Regards
PhilTwo things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I´m not so sure about the universe.
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27th July 2008, 01:32 PM #5
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27th July 2008, 04:02 PM #6
Don't worry about the nurses talking about you. They are just jealous and wish they could find one like you too. I think your letter idea is gorgeous. Keep doing it. And I hope you told your wife about the PJs too.Maybe you could give her a pair of your PJs for her pillow too. (Maybe not.) Here's to breaking the mens code.
anne-maria.
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27th July 2008, 05:47 PM #7
Mens code does not exclude caring for SWMBO in any way that is possible.
Real men care.
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27th July 2008, 05:56 PM #8
Told her about the PJ's and she cried don't know what I did wrong, the letters have also done the trick her spirits are up and I think it will make the next three weeks easier and the rehabilitation more effective, I have just got home from the hospital and she definitely seemed happier. Can't give her my PJ's still wearing them.
Woohoo I think that I have finally grown up.Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I´m not so sure about the universe.
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27th July 2008, 07:48 PM #9
Phil,
Sounds like you have a really beautiful relationship. I'm sure you've worked hard at loving each other for many years. Reading this thread brought tears to this "real man's" eyes.
Keep it up, mate. The notes, the chats, the PJs, the chocolates. If you have some flowers in your garden you can take her a few. Chicks dig all that stuff
God bless.
Tex
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27th July 2008, 08:02 PM #10
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28th July 2008, 12:13 AM #11anne-maria.
Tea Lady
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28th July 2008, 12:52 AM #12
Nurses will generally eat as many chocolates as they can get their hands on. Hopefully your wife will recover before you run out of cash to buy them with.
Just a word about flowers. Watch out what colours you give your wife. If you put red and white flowers on their own in a vase, the nurses go mental and start rushing about panicking, flapping their arms and generally behaving in an un-Nightingalish manner !Pugwash.
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28th July 2008, 10:17 AM #13Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I´m not so sure about the universe.
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28th July 2008, 06:53 PM #14anne-maria.
Tea Lady
(White with none)
Follow my little workshop/gallery on facebook. things of clay and wood.
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28th July 2008, 08:00 PM #15
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