I am confused and need some advice from the woodworking women

[flynnsart]

You rock! I bet the nurses wish all the spouses of the patients were so supportive to their loved ones.

Donna

[RufflyRustic]

Hi Phil,

What a way to be, someone so in love with their wife and man enough to show it

Your first letter is very special. It's all about the fact that you picked up pen and paper and wrote for her. Don't be surprised if it gets framed or a special box suddenly appears with the letter in it. The second letter is just as special, because it isn't a one-off. Anything else you do will be treasured and remembered as well.

Good on you Phil! thinking of you both and hope you will be home together very soon.

cheers
Wendy

[wheelinround]

Phil top marks Code whimps live by codes your no whimp

Yep Nurses would be jealous as anything keep them guessing

[Phil Spencer]

Hi Phil,

What a way to be, someone so in love with their wife and man enough to show it

Your first letter is very special. It's all about the fact that you picked up pen and paper and wrote for her. Don't be surprised if it gets framed or a special box suddenly appears with the letter in it. The second letter is just as special, because it isn't a one-off. Anything else you do will be treasured and remembered as well.

Good on you Phil! thinking of you both and hope you will be home together very soon.

cheers
Wendy

Thanks Wendy, today Rhonda left the Hospital and goes into a supported guest house for two weeks, all part of her pain rehabilitation, she is within walking distance of the hospital and has to attend as an out patient for two weeks. It will teach her brain that she can manage, Rhonda has been to afraid to leave the house for the past 18 months because of the pain. Although she will have pain for the rest of her life she is being taught to manage with meditation and keeping her stress levels low and therefore keep the pain at a manageable level.

So today after she was discharged from the hospital, I took her across to the guest house and helped settle her in then I accompanied her in a trial walk to the Hospital, none of the O/T's had thought of this, Rhonda was really scared about going solo so a trial walk to the Hospital really helped.

It was really odd leaving her there, being a Guest House and living only 45min up the road did not seem rational to me but its all part of the pain management rehabilitation and I suppose that the doctors know what they are doing. I could tell that Rhonda felt the same.

The one good thing about this next two weeks is there is more privacy and the environment is definitely less sterile and political, I reckon that Hospital is the last place to put a sick person.

If any one is interested in reading a very good book on pain, its causes and its management try 'Explain Pain" by the NOI group in South Aust. it is written in simple language and walks the reader through chronic pain, its causes and ways to handle it.

I am already thinking about making a box for the letters.

Regards

Phil

[Phil Spencer]

You rock! I bet the nurses wish all the spouses of the patients were so supportive to their loved ones.

Donna

Thing is Donna, I find that I am still pre judged by the nurses, there must be a lot of husbands that are not supportive. Or maybe by pre judging and having pre-conceived ideas they unwittingly create a self fulfilling prophecy. This happened in the hospital Rhonda was reading a letter and a nurse came in and tried to take it off her, saying that 'all this rubbish would upset her and not help with the pain', so what do you do? This nurse had all the sensitivity of a Bull Elephant, I just wish that I had been there.

Phil

[tea lady]

Gee, Phil. I would have thought that something else to think of besides the pain and hospitals would be a good thing.

There was an interesting series on ABC Radio National recently about pain and new ways of coping with chronic pain. The show was "All in the Mind" I think. mm: Or the health show. Can't remember now. It was very interesting though. Although I am very glad I don't have to cope with it.

Two more weeks home alone? 14 more letters.

[Mollywood]

There always seems to be one bitchy nurse on the staff that upsets everyone.
Don't let her/him get under your skin.
They're probably jealous because they don't have a thoughtful partner who does nice things for them.

Best wishes for you both.

[Phil Spencer]

Gee, Phil. I would have thought that something else to think of besides the pain and hospitals would be a good thing.

There was an interesting series on ABC Radio National recently about pain and new ways of coping with chronic pain. The show was "All in the Mind" I think. mm: Or the health show. Can't remember now. It was very interesting though. Although I am very glad I don't have to cope with it.

Two more weeks home alone? 14 more letters.

I will look them up and try for a pod cast

[RufflyRustic]

Thanks Wendy, today Rhonda left the Hospital and goes into a supported guest house for two weeks,............................

I am already thinking about making a box for the letters.

Regards

Phil

YeeeeHHaaaaa!!!!! Great news Phil

Go the box,

[Phil Spencer]

I have just found out that Rhonda will be allowed home for the weekend next weekend, I have brought her a new top from Jaqui.e it is a three quarter sleeve thing feels like its made from something really soft (that's about as far as this man knows how to describe fabric) has some lace around the neck and down the front. When I gave it to her in the hospital I told her that she was not allowed to wear it till she came home, something to look forward to.

I have planned a special meal, all the things she likes a boned and butterfly cut leg of Lamb it has been marinated in Moroccan herbs and I will BBQ that, I will also steam some Kepler potatoes and I will season them with herbed butter also some couscous salad all to be washed down with a nice red.

I don't think I will be looking at the forum over the weekend for some reason.

Regards

Phil

[diana]

Hi Phil,
I was reading about your wife and a beautiful idea would be to buy her favourite fragrance in a body lotion, when you visit here you can give her a hand massge or rub her shoulders wirh the lotion, the fragrace will leave a lasting memory of your visit, and she will feel refreshed and it will give you both some special time with each other. My husband did this for me when I was ill and it made me feel so wonderful and it helped me relax and to this day the CoCo chanel lotion is my very special gift at christmas.

[Phil Spencer]

Hi Phil,
I was reading about your wife and a beautiful idea would be to buy her favourite fragrance in a body lotion, when you visit here you can give her a hand massge or rub her shoulders wirh the lotion, the fragrace will leave a lasting memory of your visit, and she will feel refreshed and it will give you both some special time with each other. My husband did this for me when I was ill and it made me feel so wonderful and it helped me relax and to this day the CoCo chanel lotion is my very special gift at christmas.

What a wonderful idea, I might pluck up the courage and put my man feelings aside and try it I suppose the Body Shop would be a good palce to start.

[GekoMan]

Phil, sorry I am not a female. However I have had several girl friends and female friends who are nurses and one a doctor. What most people don't realise is how often there are people in hospital that have no visitors at all.

You could put money on those nurses thinking you and your wife have a fairy tale relationship. These nurses see the worst of people everyday so they need a hart warming story like yours every now and then to inspire them. That is why they are talking about you.

[tea lady]

So Phil, how'd the weekend go?

[prozac]

So many posts Phil I only read the first, oh and the last because tea lady always has sage advice. I think she may be quite old. That's just between us blokes ok Phil.

Back to the topic, putting it all in writing and the code etc. No mate it can't help in the charisma stakes if the nurses had a look. They're in it for the care and compassion they can bring to others right. Something like this, well it lets them know that you are a 'snag' and when they are talking about you now it's probably complimentary stuff. That look, now that's envy. Yup they know they haven't got you, but now you are a valuable commodity, something to strive for. Man you are HOT!

It never hurts to feel the best about yourself now and again.

prozac