Hi

When my first son was born an old cockie said to me that kids are just like border collies,

"ya got two years before thier brains close over and ya cant teach em new behaviours"

My boys are loved, cuddled, spoilt with gifts and time, but very much disicplined.

I have taught them to look over to me if I whistle in a certain way. Sometimes its to praise them with a smile or a wink that they are doing good , sometimes if I want them where I can motion them over or the bad one......:mad: :mad: :mad: a slow shake of the head from side to side to indicate an immediate change in behaviour is required.

Failure to comply and they are put on a " YELLOW " card just like in soccer, another infraction and they are on a "RED" :mad: card and are out of the game and lose priveliges.

As little tackers a red card means they lose thier current favouritist thing which goes on a shelf out of reach.

The big fella now loses XBOX or simpsons or something similar.

This is the end of the red card and they go back to yellow again. Good behaviour over a short period and they are off that as well. We have found this works really well and you dont need to yell or shout or smack, though a double red results in one .

The other thing is never be afraid to give other children who are misbehaving direction, speak firmly, calmly and pleasantly and tell them to please stop doing that. Any parent who gets the darks over that is not worth being around anyhow

cheers


dazzler