Getting a life.

[RufflyRustic]

Geez, look what happens when I'm away, sigh!

Lignum, I believe Sturdee was actually being very humble, honest, upfront (which deserves respect) and paid you a compliment in that he seriously thought about your line to "g..a..l", how it applied to him and what he could do, would do and has done about it.

Sometimes an off-hand(?) comment strikes home very hard and makes one re-evaluate where they are in life. Has this ever happened to you? Maybe this isn't where Sturdee is coming from, but if I was in Sturdee's shoes, this is how I would see it.

Of course, this is my humble opinion and you don't have to agree with it.

Sturdee, I respect your decision and respect you for letting us know what and why. I hope you have many happy times dancing with SHMBO.


cheers
Wendy

[Bodgy]

As I said before, it may be a generational thing. I do use naughty words to make a point, or add some humour, but never with the intention of offending anyone. In particular Sturdee, who has been extremely helpful to me, and has my respect.

Surely, it's no big deal, lets move on. Like DanP says, nothing wrong with a bit of biffo.

[Lignum]

However, I do agree with Ryan, and think that you have gone too far. Please just say sorry to Peter (Sturdee), and you will be seen in a rather different light. Do not, and you may not be very welcomed here again.

Cheers!

Do you lot lay awake at night not being able to sleep because i used the term "get a life"



Looks like i wont be welcom anymore.

[outback]

I should follow Lous advice and just let it go to the keeper. It is such a minor matter. BUT you have just Re-Posted publicly a Private Message. That as far as im concerned is far worse than any tit for tat or silly name calling. I could go on, but the trivial nature of this rubish is not worth it. As far as im concerned this is the last time i can be bothered commenting on it.

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[silentC]

I can't think of anything to say without offending anyone. It must be something to do with the phase of the moon or something. It would be very disappointing to lose a member like Lignum over something like this. With all due respect to those who have called for it, I don't think he has anything in particular to apologise for. We're all grown adults here, aren't we?

Sheesh, if I had a dollar for every time I've offended someone or been offended...

Lou, you're a classic...

[Cliff Rogers]

.... It must be something to do with the phase of the moon or something......

http://www.woodworkforums.ubeaut.com...ad.php?t=24333

[craigb]

I can't think of anything to say without offending anyone.

And your problem is? :confused:

[arose62]

Well, I read through this, and started wondering to myself if this was a normal part of "the life cycle of a bulletin board".

Surely we can't be the only folks in the world demonstrating these behaviours?

Anyway, I did a bit of googling, and this study looked like it had some reasonable likenesses to what I think I see going on.

http://jcmc.indiana.edu/vol10/issue4/kavanaugh.html

Seems to me the BB has matured to the stage where there are a group of members who feel strongly-ish that they belong to this community, and are prepared to act in order to preserve it. I'm not educated in psychology or any other field of human behaviour (nor am I a Triton demonstrator), but I found it interesting in the above study that Education, Extrovertism and Age were three factors which predicted one being strongly involved in communities.

On-line communities can be more prone to flaming etc. due to participants not expecting to meet face-to-face. (Makes sense to me). This would give the caring members more incentive to try to preserve the community in whatever ways they felt best.

I'd love to know if anyone finds any hard info on this sort of study.

Cheers,
Andrew

[Grunt]

I can't think of anything to say without offending anyone. It must be something to do with the phase of the moon or something. It would be very disappointing to lose a member like Lignum over something like this. With all due respect to those who have called for it, I don't think he has anything in particular to apologise for. We're all grown adults here, aren't we?

Sheesh, if I had a dollar for every time I've offended someone or been offended...

Lou, you're a classic...

Darren, I find your comments offensive.

[silentC]

Mission accomplished!!

[arose62]

Lots of about group interaction, and moderating, and more info here:

http://www.lifewithalacrity.com/2005..._altruist.html

"such as this study using MRI (Magnetic Resonance Imaging) that shows that our brain's pleasure systems are activated when we altruistically punish."

So, some members are getting unhealthy stimulation of their brains' pleasure systems from saying "naughty, naughty" to others Betcha didn't realise that!

And, BTW, I'm offended by both Grunt and SilentC for ignoring my valiant attempt to move this discussion to a higher, or at least slightly different, ground.
(Hmmm, not sure that did much stimulating for me...)

Cheers,
Andrew

[silentC]

Sorry, I was thinking about it, although I don't have time to read the article. I'm sure a sociologist would have a field day with the posts to this thread and others.

I don't think this forum is any different to any other 'community' where you have a bunch of vastly different people brought together for a common reason. Once the novelty of discussing your favourite topic with like-minded individuals wears off, the underlying differences start to show through.

Some people you get along with famously and others are always going to be at arm's length. I guess that things don't really change all that much from when we were children in the schoolyard.

I've been called a bully, which is certainly a new one on me. I did give it a go once with a kid just to see what would happen. His sister punched me, so I gave that experiment up pretty quick

Generally, I enjoy myself here. Some of the heated discussions I think get a bit out of hand. I watch my kids going at it and it's no different. Escalating violence I call it, with neither side wanting to back down. We all want to be heard, we all have our views. Here you get to rant and rave uninterrupted. No-one can shout you down. I can type what I want and press the Post button. You don't have to read it of course, but then when you're arguing face to face, who really listens to what the other guy is saying anyway? Buggered if I do. It's my opinion that counts!

Nah, all perfectly normal stuff. It's a shame, we should be able to rise above the petty business of everyday life and talk about the esoteric subjects we all love - but at the end of the day we're all human animals and that's just what we do.

[Zed]

what a bunch of purse carrying nancies.

a) get over yourselves
b) let go of whatever you are holding, either yourself or your grudge
c) get on with it
d) dont get offended - laugh it off
e) enjoy your cyber personality, dont suffer from it (or anyone elses)
f) kumbayah....

[bennylaird]

Well said Zed, ya big Nancy..................

[bennylaird]

Apologies for using the term "Nancy", I still remember Allo Allo where Renee says "Yes my brother and I both come from Nancy so we are Nancy Boys"
A great comedy, must buy the DVD's.