We have the Fisher Paykel dishdraws and love them. As for stuff that is not dishwasher safe when the old girl is not watching I shove 'em in and if they make it out alive they are d/w safe if not they head for the eternal d/wer in the sky. If she finds out I just say well go and buy something that does go in the d/w to replace it. Eventually I will work my way through the rubbish.
And no matter how good your d/wer is I have not met one that does not have a bad wash every now and then, unless of course you wash things before puting them in the d/w.